Archive for the 'Love/Relationships' Category

17
Dec
09

Tiger Tiger Woods Ya’ll

stop lying


Yes, I too am gonna speak on Mr. Woods. And why not? Everybody else in the free world has already, right? And in case you need to catch up, Ole Nancy Grace goes in on Tiger on a nightly basis, detail by detail, blow by blow (ooh maybe poor choice of words:)
Personally this story has made me laugh, yes I initially found delight in Elin busting the windows out of the car. I posted the Jazmine Sullivan video Bust Your Windows on Facebook. I thought of getting a t-shirt made with the words TEAM ELIN in bold type. Or Elin tee’d off on Tiger’s…. Though in my heart I know, domestic violence is not funny and definitely is not the answer. Then those feelings turned to sadness, for the children, for Elin and for Tiger because his actions could possibly cause the breakup of his family. Then sadness turned to pure disgust as I heard his voice on voice mails and the skank count grew on a daily basis. The one feeling that has been the same from day one is poor Elin. I feel for her as a wife, as a mom and as a human being. I can’t imagine the pain she is in. I hate that Tiger’s actions have thrust her out into the public eye in such humiliating circumstances. I feel for the children whose father’s lack of judgement and/or lack of scruples have broken up their family and one day, they will know the circumstances and mourn the loss all over again. And most of all I hate that he at no point thought or cared about any of the above to stop it.
We can call it sex addiction. We can say he was finally letting his hair down because of his regimented childhood at the hands of Earl Woods, that only consisted of golf. Or may be the formerly geeky, buck tooth, skinny, racially confused Tiger, now a billionaire, was living out his fantasies. Heck, all of it may be true. But is does not excuse the total lack of character. Tiger has been a winner all of his life but truly he is the biggest loser. And he stands to lose a whole lot more than a golf tournament. SMDH.

11
Jul
08

Getting down to the Heart of the Matter

They say to truly experience love you have to go naked emotionally. You gotta go all in. No hanging around the edge of the pool. You have to allow yourself to be vulnerable. The downside is there is always the risk of loss, disappointment and pain. Is it always worth it? Well, if you ask anyone who has come up on the short end of the stick, they would probably say it isn’t. Anyone who has loved hard, true and deep knows it doesn’t always end up pretty. Most times the happily ever after is not in the cards or just isn’t meant to be. In the game of love, nobody walks out unscathed. Love can be messy and trust is usually the biggest casualty.

But in order to feel the pleasure and experience the beauty; you have to risk the pain. And the good news is, when it’s good; there is nothing like it. The sun seems to shine brighter. All that’s good is better. And I guess that’s why despite bad dates, relationships and marriages we pick up our pride, dust off our egos and put our trust back on the line because there is still the hope that the “right” person is out there or the “right” relationship exists. And I guess I am no different. Despite everything I know, have seen and experienced; I still believe for better or worse, that happily exists. The ever after, well; that remains to be seen.

FMBJR